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(@honeybee)
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01/18/2020 11:27 pm  

I didn't really know where to put this.  Sorry if it is in the wrong spot. I can't really answer the evil question. NO IDEA.  I have been following this site since the election of T.  I was distraught, and looking for hope.  I am pretty convinced that a higher power helped me find you guys.  Even though I check the forum almost every day, this is my first post.  First of all, you guys (EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU) are just the kindest, most loving spirits.  You all remind me of the women in The Secret Life of Bees who just circle around each other and lift each other up.  I imagine that I will not post very often.  I have no psychic abilities, but I get so much from each of you, and it makes me feel so much better to know that people like you exist.  I live in the heart of T country, so sometimes I feel pretty overwhelmed by the negative rhetoric around me.  You all give me hope, and I am grateful for each of you, and your awesome (overused word but appropriate here) insight and wisdom.  I learn so much from you. Thank you.


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01/19/2020 12:16 am  

@honeybee

I was already weepy (In a good way)  after reading the last few posts tonight. Then you pop up out of the ether and wrote what you wrote and now I can’t see the screen for all the water in my eyes.  Thank you for showing up! 

I loved that movie.  After I watched it, I started it up again and watched it all over again. Those women created a refuge of love.  And Alicia keyes is a great singer.  She isn’t supposed to be able to act! Oh and welcome to the forum! 


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01/19/2020 12:32 am  

Now you are making me tear up! Seriously, a million hearts to all of you for your positive messages of love and light. ❤️ I work with teens and so I see so much good in them and I know that they have fire and love and compassion and creativity and that they will do SO MUCH BETTER.  I just don't want us to destroy the joint before they can take over.   You guys give me hope for the future.  Love to all you light workers!  🌻  


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01/21/2020 6:11 pm  

I love my youngest  daughter dearly and she is going though a challenging time right now.  She is 20, struggling with some anxiety issues and having a rough start to her current semester of college. It is difficult for her to ask for help (life help) , she dislikes  confrontation and does not like the spotlight shinning upon her.   For example, until recently, if the Barista at a Starbucks or somewhere similar made the wrong drink, or forgot to make it altogether, she would not say anything.   She would choose to leave rather than ask for it or get the correct item.    This type of conversation was too fearful for her to have with someone.  Recently however, she told me she has begun to take steps to speak up when there is a problem with her order,.    It is a big step for her.  Each one she takes is like a little victory to celebrate.  She has begun to realize the more she takes the steps, the easier the are to take.  

She is very bright,  and people love being her friend.  She is actually a fantastic friend to have, supportive and a great listener.  She is also very fun to be with and has a great sense of humor. She  is probably a mid range empath with some of her empathic traits trending strong.  She feels things very deeply, but is a very private person and will not easily share her thoughts and especially her fears of which there are many.  She tends to over think things too.

Last semester she made a choice related to school which was an understandable choice, but it had a big negative effect in the end,  She did not anticipate this consequence and yes, if she had approached her mom and dad about the issue, we could have helped her avoid negative  result easily as she didn't have all the information she needed at the time she made her decision.  But she didn't and now the ramifications are being felt.  Hopefully it will turn into a life lesson that will help her over time.  I don't want it to make things more anxiety filled for her as she is challenged enough in this area.  

Anyway, as I mentioned before, it is a very challenging time for her right now, thus it is a challenging time for me.  I am walking that fine line, trying to make sure she is dealing ok with life  at the moment, not burying her feelings  or being overwhelmed.   At the same time, I don't wish to make her feel additional stress from me.  I am not trying  to "fix" anything she needs to do on her own, but help her navigate through if that makes sense. 

So, here is where I think I could use some help.  Please send some light my way to help guide me in how best  to  help her where I can and in the way that is best for her.  Please also send some light her way to help her find her path, strength, and joy.  I don't want her feeling boxed in .  I want her feeling inspired and creative again  and to not just "get through" this time in her life but to feel connections, inspiration  and passion as she travels her journey.   I so want for her to find inspiring pathways and  feel that it is ok to ask questions to get  through things that are difficult.  Lastly, I so wish for  her  to discover  more inner peace and joy.  She has overcome a lot over the past few years including a major medical issue which was  life changing at the time but now thankfully resolved.  I so want her to believe  she has a bright future ahead of her. 

These are probably all things we would wish for our children.  I just am struggling a bit right now so I appreciate your thoughtfulness in reading this message and any light and love you could send over our direction.

Originally I debated whether I should even post asking for help because asking for help does not come easily for me.  But then it hit me ...  ( cue the big huge light bulb shining above my head moment) .  Perhaps I need to work on asking for help too.  Just like my daughter.

Thank you.  

 


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01/21/2020 6:54 pm  

@lovendures

Sending light your family's way, Lovendures. Signing off with that epiphany is pretty neat, too.


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01/21/2020 7:13 pm  

@lovendures sending you love and angels to help you be the Mom your daughter needs right now. I am also sending love & angels to your daughter to help her navigate this time in love & success. I so identify with your post. I too have teen / young adult daughters & what a tricky business. I ask for this same guidance myself daily ❤️


 


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01/21/2020 8:13 pm  

@lovendures

I am so happy to send you and your daughter love.  I will pray for you both during this time of growth and discovery.  It will be a joy for you to watch your beloved daughter blossom and grow into the person she is meant to be.  


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01/21/2020 8:18 pm  

@lovendures,  I don't have children, but I do remember what it felt like to be a young woman of that age.  It's not an easy time, especially when you are a private person, feel things deeply, prone to anxiety  and have a sensitive nature.   Your daughter sounds like a wonderful person.  And how fortunate she is to have such a loving, wise, and supportive mother.     

I am sensing angels surrounding you and your daughter.  I'm literally feeling it right now, around my heart.  May those angels be a constant source of guiding light, support, and strength to both of you.  


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01/21/2020 9:53 pm  

Thank you so much for your help, love and time.  @bluebelle@deetoo , @Shawn ,@coyote,  your messages  mean a great deal to me and I am humbled.  I feel the love in your words, prayers and healing thoughts.  

I had an interesting observation I wanted to share.

As I posted my initial message before anyone would have had the opportunity to read it,  I felt a gentle warm whispering wave of energy coming to me, I took that as a sign that I made the right  choice in posting . More importantly, I realized that my Spirit guides and angels must have been very tuned into my need as they were likely letting  me know they were  present.  Additionally,  I must have been tuned into them to have noticed.  I can't say that I often sense them, so this was a pleasant surprise.  

 


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01/21/2020 10:26 pm  

@lovendures

Our 20 year old daughter is having similar issues (after flunking out of college 2 years ago and recently flunking out of beauty school). You have my fullest empathy.  I will do my best to send some love and light your way. Glad your spirit guides are on the case.


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01/21/2020 10:32 pm  

Me next!!

I am sick again  - third time in 6 weeks. Cough, fever, etc. I finally convinced the doctor to give me some antibiotics. This is the longest bout of this stuff I have had since about 1998. I always get my flu shot and luckily I've had the pneumovax too. But I feel like crap. I have to keep pushing off appointments and activities. Stuff that I had to rebook from early December I'm having to push off yet again, for the third time.

Last time you all were kind enough to send me some healing,and I believe it helped. Well, up until I relapsed anyway... So please add me to your list and send healing, direct it especially at my respiratory system, my asthma is totally flared up and I've had a hard time keeping my breath.

Thanks in advance, beautiful souls, Namasté

 


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01/21/2020 10:46 pm  

@laura-f

On it.  I’m sending healing light to you right now.  I think you will have felt it before you read this.


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01/21/2020 10:59 pm  

@lovendures

What a wonderful mother you are. I will certainly send love and prayers your way and your daughter’s way.  Young adulthood can be so beautiful, yet complicated as hell. She is lucky to have such a wise mentor in the family. Ain’t nothing gonna stop her now. Sending warm vibes to you both. 🌞


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01/21/2020 11:05 pm  

@laura-f

Sending healing thoughts your way. Hope you get the rest and comfort you need to fight off those 🦠 germs. 


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01/21/2020 11:20 pm  

I too have a 20 year old in college. She is being treated for PTSD, anxiety, and depression, much like me. I was saddened and horrified to learn that she  has to deal with what I do and I am praying she has not inherited the bipolar disorder. She got help in response to me recently divorcing her father after 25 years together, so something good came of it. She did not speak to me for six months and blames me. I stopped sleeping and was put on sleeping pils and am having trouble weaning off. Our relationship is healing now, but I am still so sad that she cannot see me for who I am, she idolizes him despite some very bad things happening from him her whole life, and also that I have hurt her so much.  I am working on forgiving myself. I was not able to control alot of things and be the best mom I wanted to be often,  and all I can do now is do better for myself and most of all for her. She is my ony child and she can be dismissive and such, because she has been hurt by us both.

I need prayers for us both. I need strength to forgive myself. I was mentally ill her whole life an ddin't even know what was causing me to be so off. It is hard for me to write this and share this, but I see that all of these posts have invited me to share what makes me saddest. 

To all who have posted or are parents and are dealing with big regret I offer you my love and understanding. 

 


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01/21/2020 11:34 pm  

@ghandigirl

Oh, Ghandigirl.  I am so sorry for what you’ve been enduring.  You have dealt with more than your share of pain and suffering.  Now listen, today is a new day, a new beginning.  I don’t have any amazing answers as to how you move forward, but I do believe it’s possible to heal yourself and your relationship with your daughter.  Whatever you do, do it in love.  Be kind to yourself.  Practice loving kindness meditation every day.  I am sending you love and healing.


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01/22/2020 12:12 am  

@bluebelle

As I read your message it is almost midnight. For the third night in a row I find I cannot sleep. I have been crying and sad. So I come out here to be with the cat and drink warm milk. I see my new doctor on Thursday and hope he can help me, and help me to relieve the pins and needles I now have in my very cold feet. A concerning new symptom.

You are right, it is a new day. And eventually sleep will come. I remember that I am loved and safe, even if my anxiety wants me to think otherwise. Thank you for writing to me...it wasn'y wise for me to write so close to bedtime about my daughter. I became so sad that the sadness wouldn't allow me to ease into sleep. Maybe I just need to let it be and drink my milk and pet the cat. Maybe I can use these quiet moments to feel better. 

I spoke to G-d and asked Him for help. I no longer can sense the angels around me, but I believe  they are there. I have overcome worse insomnia then this. I have overcome EVERYTHING.

Afraid I will have to medicate myself even more tonight. It is what it is. 

 

For all of you here, reading and listening, you help me to feel not alone and for that I am the most grateful.  

 


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01/22/2020 12:22 am  

@ghandigirl and @laura-f,

Wow!  What are the odds of 3 of us having 20 year old daughters dealing with a rough time right now? There are no coincidences are there?  At least not today.   I will say prays for both of your young ladies.  May they find their own peaceful and  joyful pathways.  May they feel love as it wraps itself around them.  May they gain wisdom.  May both of you feel peace and love as you also travel through this parenting journey.  

Laura, I am sorry to hear you have been dealing with illness for so long.  That must be very frustrating.  May you heal and feel stronger each day until you are healthier than before you got sick.

 I am not sure why so many people are ill this year but they sure seem to be.  My older 23 year old daughter is a first year music educator.  She has been ill with different ailments since mid November with about 4 different illnesses.  She is very frustrated because she never has illnesses this often.    She also has been re-booking re-booked appointments.  Weird.  

@Honeybee, such kind words.  Thank you so much!

Amazing, the power of words. They can easily bring people down when said in anger and fear.  But look how powerful they are when uttered with hope and love  with an open heart.


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01/22/2020 12:26 am  

I feel so much love flowing tonight as I read these posts. @lovendures, I am sending my love to you and your daughter.  I know you are trying to be strong for her and I am sending prayers and healing right now for  both of you.   

 @laura f I am sending you healing and wishing deep rest for you.   And for you too ghandigirl. Sending deep healing for you and for your daughter. 

As their mothers you feel your daughter's suffering and you feel your own. It is a double  burden to carry.  We are so energetically aligned with our children.  We feel them no matter how far apart in distance   And they feel us. Taking good care of your selves helps your daughters.  

I’m so glad you reached out to us here.  We are all here for you. We put angels by you and your daughters’ bedsides and to accompany them night and day while they heal.   And we send angels for you mothers too.   


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01/22/2020 12:32 am  

Sweet @ghandigirl

I am so sorry your heart is heavy tonight. You are certainly not alone.  We will be sending you lots of love and hope. You will have a tribe sending you light and healing too.


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