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Thank you Michele. I do ask Buddy to help me with Too-ti Luv. I had never had a bird before Buddy and must admit I was taken aback by how taken I was with this little thing. Budgies may be small animals but they sure take a huge place in your heart.
The breeder told me it would take about a week to get Too-ti to eat from my hand, and to be patient with him coming to perch on my finger. Within one hour, He was on my shoulder, going everywhere in the appartment with me, the same day he began to eat treats in my hand. So Buddy is there with us, guiding us to get to know each other. I really believe Buddy was thankful to no longer be in pain.
Oh, Bright Opal,
That is awesome! We've had canaries, one robin, and one crow.
Budgies are so tiny and so precious. It's obvious that Buddy and Too-ti are indeed connected and so are you.
I just love this!
I'm sorry to hear that. Two of my brothers have lymphedema and they use compression garments and self-massage at home. My only experience with it was after need replacement, and the therapist used massage only. There's wonderful support groups online and there are lots of sites that sell really cool compression garments that don't look like you are wearing a garment.
It really sounds like you are a bright light in your nieces lives. How fortunate your brother and these girls are and you them.
If I may add one more suggestion, baking/cooking together. Cookies, cakes, simple mini pizzas, soups or easy foods from scratch, not mixes. My kids loved baking. They eventually made creative dinners and sauces and side dishes on their own as they grew. Even today when my college/ young adult kids start stressing, they want to bake. They also want to bake when they are happy.
Baking together creates memories, builds skills and when not done under a time pressure is fun. Perhaps make some fall desserts and decorate them. Gingerbread houses in winter. Have a pancake bar with pancakes they help make ( make shapes, flowers, animals, happy faces, heck any kind of face since you can talk about feelings while making them if they want). Whipped cream, fruit and candy toppings. They can be totally creative. It could be a breakfast for dinner theme too. Pj's and pancakes for dinner. Have a night where the food theme is green or red or orange and there has to be that color somewhere in each food item or every food has to begin with the same letter of the alphabet (C= Chinese chicken, chickpea, cabbage, cinnamon cookies, citrus, chocolate, cantaloupe cream of broccoli soup etc...) Invite a grandparent over to help create the memory if they are well enough. They will appreciate building that memory with the girls as well. Take photos. Create a multi generational "cookbook" for that cooking night. They can look at the book next time they are over. Memories to reflect upon for years to come.
OMG! Now I want to come over too! Ha ha ha!
I think I need to invite my young adult kids over for a alphabet letter dinner night with each person creating a letter dish. Who says you have to be a child?
Cooking is definately something to explore together. The youngest has deadly allergies to milk sesame, milk and other baking products. So taking our family recepees and experimenting with them, replacing some ingredients with others could be fun. We have had reverse dinners (starting with desserts) was vry popular.
California is a large state. Currently there are fires burning from N. California to S. California and everything in between. I have friends who have dealt with evacuations in both locations of the state this week.
Early this morning a new fire broke out near the Getty Center in Los Angeles. The college I graduated from was evacuated in the wee hours of the morning. The Mt. St. Mary's University Chalon campus is located on top of a mountain just above the Getty Center. There is basically one way to get to the campus, up a single road through a neighborhood of homes. Through pitch black smoke after being roused by their resident assistants, 450 resident students had to walk down that road, many still in PJ's, where they were met by waiting ambulances to evacuate them to shelter. Those who were lucky, were able to grab their backpacks, computers and a few necessities. The threat of fire has always been a concern for that campus but so much more so as the state has dealt with years of drought. This October's Santa Ana Winds have been fierce.
I heard a local news station report that some of the classroom buildings have been burnt. I am aware that at least 12 structures have been lost from the fire, many of them homes. There is still a convent located above the campus and I have no idea how they faired.
I have multiple friends dealing with California wildfire evacuations this past week. Some in N. California, some in S California. If you can hold those dealing with this crisis in love, ( people, animals, wildlife etc) it would be appreciated.
Additionally, I have a friend who told me how the area she lives in Tennessee was hammered by the remnants of Olga. Major flooding, roads blocks, people isolated and major damage.
Mother Earth is speaking. Loudly.
I just moved here from Monterey, and watching the fires is just heartbreaking. So much of this is a result of PGE's poor maintenance of their lines. And to see the Getty Fire when I have friends who live down there, as well as those scattered in the north - it's so sad.
I need a little TLC right now myself. There's a Worker's Comp hearing 11/4 in Salinas to determine I'm even entitled to survivor's benefits and it may not be going well due to a lawyer who's trying to say I'm not entitled to anything. I've been told this is standard. Our lawyer (me, my 2 stepkids) says that's nonsense. I just really want all this to be over, and frankly, I need the money. I want to get my GIS certificate so I need a car and tuition by sometime in December. The WC attorney for the other side is holding up even the insurance payments that have been agreed to. My lawyer is a stickler for the law and the regulations, but the opposition (basically my husband's employer's lawyer) is acting like a dbag. He's even annoying the young woman who was responsible for my husband's death, but it really, truly was a freak accident and I'm actually upset her as well. She's going to carry the memory of the accident for the rest of her life, and she doesn't need that jerk adding to her problems. At least my expenses in Boise are minimal since I'm staying with my brother.
Will keep good thoughts for fast resolution, PamP
I am very sorry you are going through all of this turmoil Pam. May the resolution happen quickly for your benefit. May you be able to have your classes and car very soon too. I am sure it is difficult enough to be navigating all of these changes in your life without needing to go through lawyers and the mercy of the judicial system. It isn't fair that they payments are being help up either.
May the next few months be filled with light and peace as you move forward towards your goals.
Thanks! I think this situation will be resolved, probably by December, because my lawyer said she's more than willing to take this to the Superior Court and listed the precidents in our favor in her letter. I think I just needed to vent. Our lawyer figuratively beat up their lawyer, which is why I think they changed tactics and they are now going after the driver's insurance award. I don't think they stand a chance.
@stardancer, thank you for posting, my friend. I thought about you last night -- honestly, you entered my mind. I wondered how you were doing.
Yes, the grief. I believe that for many of us such anger -- hatred, even -- masks indescribable sorrow and pain. I know that for me, that rage gives me a false sense of power -- it's crazy, I know, but sometimes I just don't know what to do with my grief.
When you describe walking among and talking to the trees, I felt a sense of lightness surrounding my heart. Soft and quiet. Thank you.
Thanks so much for thinking of me. I know I have been quiet for the last several months. I was in pain unable to adequately express what I was feeling. I had a companion dog. His name was Ben. I got Lyme’s in 2005 and it wasn’t diagnosed until 2009. Ben came into my life in 2006. He kept me awake, assisted me up the stairs among other things. He was a yellow lab, but I really think he was a wonderful little boy wearing a puppy suit. He was the most gentle, loving creature I have had the opportunity to be in relationship with. Ben’s health began to fail about 5 months ago. I so hoped he would just fall asleep and pass when the time came, but it didn’t happen that way. A few weeks ago we took him to our veterinarian to be euthanized. The entire process was so painful. A process similar to what many who join us in this forum have experienced. We buried his ashes in our garden and planted a dogwood tree there in memory of him.
We have another yellow lab. Her name is Birdie. She loved Ben. They slept together and Ben would routinely pick up 2 toys and take one over to her. We keep her busy during the day, but she misses him at night and cries. She picked up a toy for the first time since Ben died the other day.
i know the grief will pass but I really miss him.
Didn't expect to be writing about it in the forum, maybe it was time.
Thank you for your friendship, Deetoo. ❤️
my heart goes out to you - losing a pet is devastating. Someone once told me - don't be sad they're gone, be glad they were here. I'm sure his life with you was wonderful. You'll meet again.
I am so sorry on the loss of your companion and helper dog Ben. He sounds like a sweet boy and I am sure you miss him tremendously. Our animals are family members.
Thank you for your kind words, suspira. I am sad that he is gone and glad he was here. So much of life is “both/and”, isn’t it. Not certain if I will see him again, yet I believe God loves all of creation. However he works that all out in the future it will be ok. Many of us have a bit of a different take on what happens after death, yet we love and respect each other. What’s most important to me is that it will be a better place for all of us.
It means so much that you extended your love to me. Thank you, friend.
Oh thanks, lovendures. They are family, aren’t they. So it makes perfect sense that we grieve the loss of their physical presence for a season. I know the grief will pass and what will remain is wonderful memories. You stated my sentiment perfectly, he was a sweet boy. He loved everyone, even people who didn’t like dogs. Never chased or barked at another animal. We even had a neighborhood garter snake we named Wilbur who would occasionally slither over and sun himself beside Ben in the yard. I really got a kick out of that, I mean if we can find peace and be at rest next to a snake..there’s gotta be a lesson there somewhere. ☺️
Like your name..Love Endures.
@stardancer, I am so sorry for the loss of your furry companion, Ben. I can feel his gentle, sweet spirit; he makes me smile. You were blessed to travel this life road together. The love you share is a sacred bond that can never be broken.
How lovely to plant a dogwood tree in Ben’s honor, and to bury his ashes under it. Besides being beautiful, the dogwood flower is a symbol of rebirth and resurrection.
I am surrounding you and Birdie with love. Take care of yourself, my friend.
Thanks Deetoo. What a beautiful message..a sacred bond that we shared..oh Deetoo, that is so meaningful! Thank you, warms my heart.
I wasn’t aware that the dogwood flower was a symbol for rebirth and resurrection. Thanks for letting me know, I’ll remember that.
Amazing journey we are on, even in the midst of all the yuck and brokenness we encounter love and light breaks through the darkness.
I'm so sorry for your loss. All dogs are wonderful creatures, but some touch us in extra special ways. I hope your memories of Ben and his kind, gentle spirit will always be a blessing to you.
Hugs across the universe.
I can feel your devastation and I want to surround you with love. Thank you for your beautiful contributions here, including what you wrote about walking in the forest. I felt the forest from you in a way I haven't before.
I sense your dear little friend watches over you. It is so hard to lose a furry friend. They are such high vibrational beings and we are so honored to have them near. I hope you can feel everyone's love here surrounding you.
My heartfelt sympathy to you. I lost my best doggie years ago named Ibbles and I still miss him. He was like a child to me so I know they are not just pets to us. Definitely more like family. 😘 😘 😘
@stardancer I too am sorry for your loss. I have lost four kitties in my adult life and I like you wished everytime that they would just go to sleep peacefully. Never happened I just imagined they wanted me with them soI could have a good long cry and start the greiving process. I don't believe they ever leave us. One of the things I hated when I sold my condo to buy my house was that I wouldn't see my Clancey anymoew. (typo but I'm not going to correct) I used to see a shadow walk into the dining room and I knew it was her. When my Izzybelle died two years ago, at the ripe old age of 23, I missed her so much. She was my last (as far as I know) girl kitty. Every once in a while I catch a gray shadow in the hall. That's my girl. I can feel her then.
I am so sick of Dump and the rest of the crew that Iwon't even turn on the TV anymore! I can't wait for all the political ads to be over. I am worried about the coming governore election here in Ky but our state is so screwed up I don't thnk it matters anymore. As for Dump, he just seemsto get more andmore despirate. By next year I totally expect him to be insane. I just hope that the Reps he is bribing to help him out in the impeachment process are voted out next election like they deserve! I believe everyone of these buffons careers will be ruined and their reputations in taters except with the White Supremist clans. They will pay for their loyalty to the emporer.
I can feel the love surrounding me. Thank you..
So much love expressed here. I’m grateful!
You are right, tricia, they are family. I can understand why you continue to miss Ibbles, loss is hard.
Thanks for your love and support. ❤️
Hi there yogagirl! It’s great hearing from you, I remember posting with you several months ago and really felt a connection. Seeing your message brought a huge smile to my face.
Thanks for sharing about your kitty kids and I’m so glad you didn’t make the correction..loved it!
i get it with locking out of the news cycle. I do watch Rachel and Lawrence. Also caught Colbert last night because Nancy Pelosi was on. She was awesome! It was really good and if you are interested could catch it on YouTube. We are going to remain focused on the Constitution as we proceed through this impeachment inquiry. Sounds good to me!
So what are the polls showing in Ky? Like you, I hope they all go down. I’m in Wisconsin and although we voted in a dem for governor Walker pulled a fast one on his way out and they do their best to sabotage Evers efforts at every turn. Then we have Johnson and he is not up for re-election. Where I live is about 95% Trumps Ville. For awhile I was engaged in conversation challenging the lies, but the last time I did it was when someone in my bible study said there wasn’t a separation between church and state. I thought my hair was going to catch on fire! I’m not able to maintain not getting furious and engage in conversations where I live. I stopped going to my small group because it would take me several days to recover. So, right now I dialog with God in the forest and pour my heart out. I go online and dialog with people who view Scripture as a narrative that moves us forward and find there are some really bright, loving people available who love and care for all people.
It feels as if we are at a crossroad. We will find out over the coming year if the experiment that our founders provided us will hold or if the United States will no longer be a democracy. Causes me to feel angry, sad and lonely at times.
Well, I’m going on and on...
i want you to know how much I appreciate your message and inviting me into a conversation, yogagirl! Blessings to you, my friend. Hope to talk with you again, soon. ❤️
Your message really touched my heart! You described Ben in the most fitting way. Not a mean bone in his body, I learned so much from him.
Thanks for the hug from across the universe. I love that and feel fully embraced! I’ll carry that hug with me. 🥰
It is so hard to lose a furry friend. They are such high vibrational beings and we are so honored to have them near.
@jeanne-mayell, Does this mean that if we raise our vibrations too much, we have to greet others by sniffing them in inappropriate places?
Sorry, I couldn't resist.
@stardancer, sorry for your loss. I'm not making light-I've had my fair share of losses. Just found it never hurts to have something make us smile.
Me again. Tomorrow I go into Boston for an MRI scan of my head and neck to check up on the various tumors I have hangin' out in my central nervous system. On Saturday I head back for another MRI of my spine. I've been getting my brain/neck scanned twice a year and my spine scanned at least once a year since I was 8 years old, so I'm very used to MRIs. But they can be rather isolating, especially now that I'm in the grown-up stage of my journey with NF2. First I'm lying in a dark tube for hours while I'm bombarded by zapping/popping/machine gun sounds, and then I have to wait several weeks to see my neurologist, all the while wondering if he'll have any bombshells to drop when we finally meet (or worse, whether he will unexpectedly call me with emergency news). But I figured I can make the experience less isolating by sharing with more people what I'll be dealing with this week, particularly people of a spiritual bent. So any healing thoughts are appreciated.
I've recently started combining meditation with internal imagery, so at least one difference this time around will be that as I'm in the dark, I will be focusing on the image of my tumors shriveling up and exiting my body with each out-breath. I've decided that one of my goals is to eventually post on this forum that my tumors actually shrank.
I will keep you in my thoughts and meditation this week. You are so courageous.❤️