[Closed] How to forgive those who don't ask for forgiveness
"How do we forgive people, especially those that don't ask for forgiveness"? How do we forgive people without being their doormat?
Generally speaking, I'm a very forgiving person. But the political climate is so charged with hate, I find that there are times I really don't want to forgive....rather....I'd like the deplorable people to suffer....horribly.....suffer 10x worse than what they are doing to others. I realize this is not an enlightened approach. I realize this is not the way of love. I realize this is a human condition and one that needs to be overcome. I realize that, sometimes, I need help and the support of others to overcome this.
I think of a college friend, retired military, who I was imploring on a morality level to look closely at this administration and reject it. He claims to be a servant of God, thus I appealed to his moral character. Rather than examining the morality of the administration, he opted to de-friend me instead. How do I act towards him in the future? Do I reach out to him? Do I wait for him to reach out to me? Do I move on with life without him?
I understand, in the end, that my most loving self should forgive him (regardless of who initiates the conversation or even if the poor behavior is recognized/acknowledged). However, I'm not going to be anyone's doormat either. Is the proper way to forgive, but not rekindle a friendship/social life with this person unless they acknowledge/apologize/make amends for their less enlightened stances?
This is the next step in healing the country and our society and (please God) I hope it is coming soon. Please provide any insights you have. I need help. And among my enlightened brothers and sisters here, I hope we find it.