The problem isn’t having an open heart. It”s that you are choosing people who are too wounded to give you love, and then you persist in trying to heal them.

You say he is worth the effort, has shown that he can love you, but then he repeatedly hurts you, leaving you in perpetual crises and zapping your ability to live to the fullest.

Save that healing work for people from whom you do not need love. For those people (the general public), just send your love to them, let spirit flow through you, be an instrument of spiritual love and the giving alone will nourish you.

For the special one you want with you, the one who surrounds you on a daily basis, you have to be very choosey.

The problem has been that your psyche has been trying to turn around the love you didn’t get when you were a child by picking people whose ability to love you resembles the love of that wounded parent.  It’s hard to let go of being that child who is craving that parent’s love, but you have to let it go, you have to come to terms with the fact that you cannot get it from that parent (or a person like that parent). You have to grieve that child”s hope and then enter into love with someone healthy.   As I write this, I feel your resentment towards me for telling you what you find so unacceptable, that you can’t have love from that person.

You may read my words, but your intellect is no match for your heart, which is five  thousand times more powerful than your intellect. The heart wants what it wants, which in this case is not healthy. It’s your child’s heart that wants the love it didn’t fully receive to grow. You can give it to yourself, but not from that person.

There are ways to turn your heart around, but it’s not easily done in a day. It involves daily practice, meditation, and energy work on yourself.